Hi there

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 11, 2008 at 04:59

Hi Viking Woman

Thanks for your kind words, and yes, many on-line relationships fail. I realize I've failed to communicate that to some, but to tell you the truth, that's the bottom line. Just under 70% of marriages between American men and Russian women fail too, for pretty much the same reasons, well, except for global jihad, of course, but in truth, culture and religion just influence the motive.

Actually, many people who convert to Islam end up converting back to whatever they were before, usually in 3 years or less.

As far as me being more direct that others on here, well, I've seen all this before I even heard of Dr. Pipes.

I know you're kind of new to this blog, but I've had women say the same thing that isis and others have said to me. About three months ago, there was a woman who was defending her Moroccan husband of three years. She would say things like "not to be rude, but you sound like an islamophobe" and "we need more success stories on here."

I explained to her that there weren't very many success stories posted because there just aren't very many period. Eventually, she caught her man cheating, and she then turned and asked me for advice. I was happy to give it, and I felt bad for her, because she had been defending him this entire time, and he was out with other women. I never got the chance to ask her, but my impression was that she was on here posting while he was out with other women.

I could spend a long time digging up old stories about how men get scammed to. In fact, it's even easier to scam Western men that it is Western women. A lot of times, they don't even meet the girl before sending cash. What I found out was they were stealing photos of Caucasian and African-American women off some Hawaiian models site and posing as them and pretending to be from small towns in the Midwest. Some of these "women" I was talking too---weren't even women.

And I'm talking about women who come on the internet and defend their man for whatever reason. The same exact thing happens on topix, and similar things happen on Y! answers with these defenses. It's just it's so redundant to me, and honestly, honestly, if things are so great in a relationship, why aren't they off in their own universe, like real couples that click are supposed to be? Why on earth would anyone in a decent relationship need to defend it on-line?

To me, it comes across like facebook or myspace. Joining groups on either of these sites is such a waste of time, and it's done by teenagers and college freshman who join groups they DON'T agree with to show everyone else is WRONG, and they are RIGHT. The same thing pretty much happens on youtube, where the comments section on every video has become a debate forum. So, if you want relationship advice from a 13-year-old or a 15-year-old who thinks they have the answers because they are AP students with straight A's, hey go for it, you know?

And you would not believe either how many people lie about their age. I've encountered 17-year-old high school kids on relationship sites who pose as 18-year-olds. I've caught three of them doing this, and once on you-tube, there was a 13-year-old posing as a 26 year-old.

Why parents even let their kids do this is beyond my understanding.

I don't agree with people on everything, and i don't expect them to agree with me on everything either, even women who have gone through this before. Sometimes, I think that my criticism is taken the wrong in that I am being an angry redneck. But it's easy to just say to someone "do whatever you want, there are no consequences. Love is magical, it can cut through anything."

All I'm trying to do is help.

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".