To Lisa - predicament

Submitted by amanda (Germany), May 11, 2008 at 05:40

Just assuming he's roughly your age, it's an age when men also think about marriage, so the idea has certainly crossed his mind. If he isn't investing everything as you are, you should know about this. If your family knows about him, then his family should know about you. It's that simple.

After my experience with someone from North Africa, I don't buy cultural differences when they only serve as excuses. If it's important to you that his family knows, he should be willing to do this favor for you, regardless of whether he tells his family much about his life or not. Either he's proud of you as his girlfriend, can tell his family and maybe send them a picture or two - or he isn't , either because

1) he isn't so sure you're the one for him or 2) he's more concerned with what his family thinks than with what you want.

Either way, you need to know if you two are on the same page. If he's evasive, if he's unable to say "Look at this great girl I've found!" it would be wiser to look for someone who will feel this way about you. What would you think about a Russian or American man who didn't tell his family about you??

When you consider that people in Morocco marry without even knowing each other, I'd say that being together for one year is a LONG time - and certainly long enough to expect what you rightly expect. Don't allow yourself to be talked out of this.

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