I need advice and help

Submitted by aleczendria (United States), May 17, 2008 at 16:34

I meet a Morrocon man online about a month ago, he was living in Italy at the time and then went home to Morocco. we have continued to talk for hours online every night. We fell in love and he has asked me to marry him.

It all happened very fast but I fell in love with him fast and he with me. So he has told his friends and family, he says his mother thinks I am pretty and she thinks I will make him happy, his farther is sketical, and his friends are happy for him and myself. He is muslim, but he is a musician and an artist.

He is extremely smart and he is attentive to me and has never accepted any money that I have offered until now when it comes for recieving visa to come to the United States. So what has been happening is he is starting to make "jokes" about killing me if I were to cheat on him or disrepect him.

He also has made comments on how he does not want me to joke and laugh with the guys at work and I bike and run with a triathlon club and he says he does not want me to do this because men will look at my legs.He has also said when I ask him why he does not want me to do something he says "because he is my man and he tells me no" Does this get worse?

So many things about him seem kind and gentle and loving but then he makes comments that envoke how controlling and jealous I think he can be.He goes against Islam by being a musician, and he says its ok that I am christian woman but he treats me like I am islam woman by trying to already tell me what to do. I am strong, independent woman and I care for him and I would like to think we can be happy but ...?

I would like to hear from everyone who has had good and bad experiences.....I need help with this, please?

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