What Happens Now

Submitted by SLS (United States), May 18, 2008 at 01:43

I do not know how I ran up on this comment site, but somehow I did and I do not think it was by luck. It is like I was led here.

But anyway, this is my story and I need all the advice anyone can give me. I have gone a little farther than some of the others. I have visited and married my boyfriend from the middle east. He paid for my trip and everything and had even gone as far as to hire a lawyer, (who is a US citizen), there in his country that works between the US and the middle east to help us with the paper work and the process to bring him to the states. I was given a packet to bring back with me to mail to immagration in chicago.

He did ask if I could pay the $355 to submit the packet since he has paid for everything else, and he would pay the $400 for the green card and whatever else there is to pay.

My problem is, I am still holding the papers trying to decide to submit them or not. While I was there in his country he was nice to me, but there was not a lot of intimacy there between us. We did not have sex until we married. He didn't even like to talk about sex or being intimate with each other. He would say, "marriage is not just about sex, and he wants a wife not just sex," he say the sex will come slowly, for me to be patient.

He drives a cab in his country and there are these Russian girls that calls him because he can speak Russian and get them around the city. I saw one of them while I was there, I went out on a call with him. I don't know if I should believe him about this girl. He say they pay good and they come to his country to work. She was dressed different from the women from his country, tight jeans shirt hanging off the shoulders and they work in bars there. I didn't feel at ease about this arrangement, but wonder why he allow me to see it. Oh yes, I didn't meet his family, because they won't agree to his marriage with me, being an American.

Am I looking too hard to find something or should I relax? What can I do with there papers I am suppose to give immigration? What would happen if I don't give them to immagration? Deep down I don't feel married to him.

Can I destroy them and go on with my life? I know the ball is still in my hands if he is to get a green card. I just cannot get over the intimacy part that he could not show, but often talked about how he loved me when we chat or talk over the phone.

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