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Submitted by lani (United States), May 18, 2008 at 13:20

I would not stop doing what I love doing, before meeting him......running and biking. How will he know and monitor your every move , while he is in morocco? Just keep on doing it. I go out with a Moroccan and he used to do that to me. There are still certain things he does not like me to do. It is a lesson of how well you listen to him and do as he says.

As time goes on, your ways will eventually change to all what he wants. If you do not like that........run now and bike away fast. If he is coming to the usa, I don't think you have to worry much about that as he will have to adjust. You never know what he may want , though, once he is here. He may still tell you not to do this and that. They do watch over their women with a jealous eye.

Just know that your cultural differences plays a large role in this relationship. Everything will seem to be wonderful and you feel so in love. The truth is .......later on it will make you realize how difficult this relationship might be for you. If you love this man so much, be ready to make a big sacrifice as he will want your full cooperation and you have to follow as he says.

So far, about the money thing, he sounds different that he has not asked for money. If you have to help him with the visa ask, him to help you with part of the money to ready it. See how he reacts to that. If you get all the .........I don't make much money in my job and other excuses. Run again and bike away fast. There will be airline tickets after approval for visa and cost for green card. So, best you make him realize how expensive it is and that you are not a bank from the get go.

I hope you will make the right choice. I am only telling you what may possibly happen. Does not mean it will. I wish you the best as you do sound like a very sincere person. Just make sure what you do is what will make you happy. Be selfish in this decision. Envision yourself and what you want in 5 years and if he has to be in that vision.......place him there. I wish you safety and peace.

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