Susan (USA)

Submitted by leesa (United States), May 18, 2008 at 20:08

Susan, I am so so sorry to hear about your daughter. I can only imagine what you are going through. I pray that you can have some peace in this most difficult time............

I am really proud of you as I'm sure we all are, that you stayed strong and didn't go back to him. You did the best thing for you, I think he would've only given you hearbreak in your life.

I am just like you, I have seen so many red flags but have swept them under the rug. Although I can't find him anywhere on the net, that doesn't mean he doesn't have other email addresses that I don't know of. He is just very inconsistent with everything. But then he does something that makes me feel he is completely real. It's very stressful.

I haven't sent him any money in a few months, but I'm supposed to soon so we can get the visa completed. I go back and forth.......still. I don't really know what to do. Part of me says just send it, it's only money, and find out once and for all if he's real. The other part says there are a lot of things I can do with that money if he's just going to disappear on me. It's a very difficult decision.

I think we are around the same age and have been through a lot of the same things, if you ever want to talk send me an email...

My thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself....Much love

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