need some advice here

Submitted by lost time (Canada), May 19, 2008 at 15:55

i been with an algerian for many yrs now on the net, we talk on n by mobile also by text messages, we met through canadian chatrooms n we become good friends for 2.5 yrs n things changed, we fall in love.

i been trying to get him to come to canada by invitation letters, but hes been refused now 3 times. again we are trying this yr, i know i can travel to meet him but i my friends are against it bcoz its much too dangerious to travel to africa, also i have read some articles where many women disapear from the face of the earth and some are murdered by there arab husbands after they marry them, for the money.

he know i am afraid to travel to him n he says we will keep trying for invitations. but its been hard on us bcoz of the refusals of visa. we had many fights n we did break up many times but we return to each other bcoz how much we love each other..

yes i send him money n iknow its not right to do that, but 5 yrs along time. maybe i am just stupid n naive..is this real love or just addiction to him? maybe he is addicted to me too.. am i wasting my time n life waiting for something that not going to happen in reality? n yes i have found some things about through my own research about him n yes i found a few women who have chatted with him in which he denies, dont get me wrong..

i believe the women, somewhere along the way he got bored with me or is he just playing n fooling me.. but he do say he dont n loves me, the question here is why he go n talked with other women n not telling me, till i find out myself..for pass 9 months now i notice some change in him, hes more mysterious, is he doing something that i not know about n i do see him many new things on him like jewelery or clothes n he comes on line at 11pm his time, he used to come early like 6pm or 7 pm to talk long hrs but lately its been only 1 or 2 hrs..

he tells me he was doing something or he just get home that why he come late or somedays he just wont come on line till the following day.. making excuses,, anyways what do you think ladies?? do you think hes up to no good? i need advice now.. i need to make a choice what to do about this situation..

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