re: on being older

Submitted by anonymous american (United States), May 20, 2008 at 19:44

I am supposed to return in july, but am not going to go. However even knowing all this, and receiving such good advice here my heart aches so much, So now the big question how do these guys get us so swept off our feet, this never happened to me before with any man, also thanks luigi you have alot of good insight,

By the many posts on this site, it seems this is occuring to many more women than you and I, and this post is just a small small percentage of us ,,, and going back 25 years back and currently. I think a big difference for us western women & what makes us so weak and how they get us so wrapped up, we arent prepared for the charm these guys know how to unleash on us. They do amongst each other also. Arab people that i know treat each other so super sweet but they know that its empty. WE dont.

And.. .Look at the Arab Governments, they kiss each other but dont trust each other and each vying to be 'the biggest leader'. It's a cultural things I suppose they've learned to get by in their environment and have been able to adapt it for use on us romance seeking women. They are desperate to get somewhere in the world and the fool heart of a woman is the only chance for a ticket out.

And yes they do see us as fools. And no they dont care when we get hurt. They have an agenda and a goal and once they decide to do this to us they are beyond having a soft heart. they know all along how they'll end it. In the meantime enjoy our affections, our passionate sex which they dont get in most cases from their traditional wives, our money, our help, and all the benefits we can offer them...until they've reached their goal. At which time we are .... disposable. The hard part for us is moving on. Admitting to ourselves we've wasted time, money, years. Really admitting it, accepting it as a mistake and moving on.

Luigi, you are so right on many points. and one in particular recent post... that :

So, I was paying for her to have cyber sex and sex with other people on the computer I had brought her. Talk about irony. I was her back-up plan, and if in all her searching she couldn't find another man who looked better (which is really all she cared about) then she would have settled for me.

I had felt in it my gut that I was the back up plan, and part of a plan... but just accepting it as true and allowing my heart to accept it and lose the affection I'd gotten addicted to... was just too hard to fully allow myself to know this. We are just chances for them. ITs almost as if they are fishing for the good one, and keep fishing just to be sure they've gotten the best catch.

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