Sorry to hear this :(

Submitted by Anna (United States), May 21, 2008 at 16:32

Hello,

I just read your story! I too met with a Turk 2 years ago. In the summer he came to work and we met in person. He was a dream come true! And yes I knew he was not staying here. He couldn't. He needed me for support. But the truth is.. I feel used now.

Once he returned home. He forgot me. We talked less and less. At least he was honest about how he really felt. Said his family would not accept me. So that right there was a no. And then he started to see other people there. What was I suppose to do? We agreed to be friends. It has been very hard on me. My heart was ripped out. And he was honest at least but the hurt won't leave me. I know how hard it is to leave him.

I know how you feel. You love him. Yes I do believe love exists online. I was head over heals for him before we met face to face. And it was even better in person. But I think you should come out and be honest with him about your fears. And tell him you can't afford to send more money. Put the fire under his butt for once. He won't respect you if you don't.

The man I fell for... writes me every so often. And he says xxx I miss you etc. That is like a hook still reeling me in. Not setting this fish free lol. I hang onto his every word. YEAH Pathetic. I KNOW! I am upset that this man has me so whipped under his power lol. I know how you feel. OMG do I ever. Please take my advise. Move on. Before you get even more hurt. Like I did. He loved me and left.. I think that is the worse feeling. Tease.. to have such love like a dream come true then gone.

I wish you luck. No one can tell your heart what to do. And no one should but you. But walk carefully okay. I don't want you to get hurt. Stay safe and hold a firm attitude towards him. I hope you find the right man soon. Take care

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