Re: Moroccan Man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 21, 2008 at 22:15

Thanks for sharing, sugar nut!

First of all, it sounds like you've met him in person once, and he wants you to marry him? It's great that you've even met his family, but there are two things here you must consider.

1) A lot of women on here dating North African men have met their man and his family. It isn't until after marriage that real problems arise.

2) Just about everyone else on here thought what they had was real, including me.

Then there is the money issue. Finances are neck and neck with adultery for relationship failures. One of my on-line distance relationships had both. The woman I had met was on a dating site and after a month of talking, before we even met, I agreed to be her girlfriend. Hours after I made that agreement, I later found out (2 years later) she was cheating on me, sugar....HOURS after we agreed to be in relationship.

The other thing that bothers me is that you are six years older than he is. Scammers and liars intentionally prey on older women because they are more likely to recieve a younger man, and because they see you as being more desperate. This is especially true if you are divorced. I'm no ladies man, but I get a lot of attention from older women myself, sometimes, it's a woman who messages me on-line, and sometimes it's a client at work or recently a drunk lady 20 years my senior at a party. It's really no secret to a lot of men that many divorced women are desperate and need it NOW.

Don't get me wrong, sugar, I can see how you would be attracted to this man. I'm sure he's fit, charming and what-not. After all, a lot of younger women date older men, but the reason that is more common is simply because human beings are attracted to people of fertile age. Men are technically fertile from puberty to death, but women stop being fertile, as I'm sure you know. Of course, the stereotypical man only things about reproduction, not about your accomplishments.

Look, I don't mean to lecture you on the finer points of sexuality, and I think you are a lot farther along than a lot of others are and certainly are than I was with my woman. That's because you are at least rising up and questioning this.

About the money: Listen, if he's even implying that you should give him money, it's a scam. Very rarely will people like this ever ask you directly. They will try and incite you to offer assistance. My woman became a master at this. It involved everything from her calling me crying saying how she'll be evicted if she can't pay rent, or she'll starve, or won't have clothes or she'll commit suicide because she can't take it anymore.

You sound like a good person who just wants a normal, happy life, but I honestly do not believe this is for real.

My question is: when did he fall in love with you? The second or third e-mail? Because, sugar, I've got the same thing from a Russian woman. In love with me on the second e-mail. The woman I told you before in this post, it was a month. She saw two pictures of me. I could have used pictures of brad pitt and she wouldn't have known the difference.

If someone wants you to marry them in 3 months after just meeting them, they aren't showing you their full hand, and that's what a marriage is all about. No secrets, all trust. You yourself have said that isn't the status with him.

I just think you should move on. Even if he isn't a scammer, the other possbility is he's getting ready to marry someone else from his culture, and you'll just be along to do the dishes and laundry and an occasional sexual adventure so he can brag to all his friends about doing a Western woman. Yasemin has posted about this before.

Look, I know this is probably not what you wanted to hear. The most unfair thing about these relationships is that if even if they aren't, they feel that way, especially to women. But do you really want to invest anymore in something that you don't trust, that you seem to know in your heart of hearts isn't real?

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