Monti

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 22, 2008 at 19:19

Hi there Monti!

Well, the first thing I need to share with you is that men can get scammed too. In fact, many men end up sending money without even meeting the woman first. This happens here in the USA where men will send money to a woman overseas who has shown them pictures or said they love them. Often times, the pictures are stolen off of a models site.

The red flags to be aware of are:

1) Asking for money. This is rarely done directly, usually it's done as a means to get you to offer first.

2) Getting married to early. Anyone who thinks that a marriage can work after meeting someone once in person is playing against very heavy odds, and it's usually just a ploy to get you into a legal agreement that in Morocco or Saudi Arabia isn't so easily broken.

3) Gaps in conversations, not talking for days on end.

4) Saying I love you too soon. Real love that you find in matrimony doesn't happen on-line or over the phone.

It's actually hard to tell sometimes, because of a lot of times trouble doesn't start until after marriage. The one advantage I think you might have is that you are the guy, and in places in the Middle East, men have more say than women. You really don't say much in your post, and I can understand maybe not wanting to tell about your personal on the internet, but it's important to be aware that if you are not Muslim and she is, she and her family may want you to make that change, or have your kids be raised like that.

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