Hello

Submitted by Miriam (United States), May 30, 2008 at 22:03

Hello,

well first let me say I am a female from Morocco. This man may have feelings for you but what you should understand is that for people who are living in less than decent conditions, love cannot come before material needs. You are right that the Moroccan man's perspective of Western Women is generally that they are sexually open, some what philanthropists, and generally naive; this is probably because many -or some to be kind -western women are pretty oblivious to the terrible conditions that exist in countries such as Morocco.

If this man is older, and he does not have any significant intellectual attraction with you, than he is probably not looking for a relationship- rather you are a nice change in his everyday routine of work and trying to make it through. In relationships such as these, if the cultural and intellectual gap is large, than this man will eventually cut off relations with you after his reality check and perhaps find a Moroccan woman to marry and have the traditional family life with.

If he's unfaithful, he will still look for another distraction such as yourself- even as a married man. My advice to you is, that if you feel a strong affinity with this man and it is worth the effort, than keep in touch. As for the gifts aspect, if you are planning to maintain a Genuine friendship with this man, you can give him a few gifts when you visit.

But given that you have already had sexual relations with him, I am telling you very clearly that he has already Lost respect for you!! Don't let this bring You down, because as you know, this is the culture. Often and unfortunately, men have sexual relations with women and then end it and look for a virgin woman to marry. Anyway, with all that said- be sure that this is a mature relationship you are entering, and that he is aware of that as well. If he is serious about you, then he will try his best to find a means to be with you, and he will kindly invite you back to Morocco to see him again, perhaps even to see family if what you both are looking for is conventional.

If he does not invite you to Morocco, and rather you invite yourself to see him, he will accept- as Moroccans are kind to their disadvantage at times- but he will be avoidant and perhaps not very hospitable. It's likely his feelings are torn as well. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that my 2 cents can be of some if any help to you at all. Please feel free to email me if you have anything you want to talk about or questions to ask.

Best regards, Miriam

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