take this hint about testing him...

Submitted by Miriam (United States), Jun 3, 2008 at 19:27

No, NO and No. The vibe I get from reading this is that he is indeed very jealous and controlling. Don't take this risk. Tell him immediately that you think his jealousy is potentially dangerous. Tell him your rights about what kind of relations you can have outside of the relationship with him.

I am a muslim Moroccan woman, and i'm telling you, this guy sounds like he could be violent. UNLESS ofcourse he has some kind of sense of humour that you are not catching through your interactions. Ask him if he thinks physical aggression is ok. I'll tell you a hint.... when you are asking him, make it seem as if you think it is OK to do that, or that maybe you are undecided.

So tell him somehting like "if i ever cheated or did something you didnt like, i wouldnt blame you if you hit me..' or something a little more subtle you can think of it im sure. But dont make him feel defensive because he will immediatly tell you what you want to hear. Men, especially moroccan are very very suave and will tell you just about eveyrthing you want to hear if they think you will believe it and have him for it. You'll see through that soon enough , trust me. So like i said, test him in the way that i recommended.. see what he says about it.

I wish you the best and also, for the heads up... i would keep chatting with him for a good 5 months before you decide if you want a relationship with him... trust me on that one, i've been there.

miriam

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