For Sugar Nut

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jun 4, 2008 at 21:38

I genuinely admire your ability to listen to the advice of people who have insight into the behavior and mindset of men who make a career out of using and abusing women.

Yes, men from every corner of the world do use and abuse women. There are also many cases where women use and abuse men. On the other hand, knowing the culture and religion of the men who are discussed on this blog can prevent one from many, many days, hours and possibly years of intense abuse. I know the culture/religion extremely well and I will tell you that once the men learn that a woman is "smart", the word gets around and they stay as far away as they possibly can. By "smart", they mean the woman can't be used. As a matter of fact, they are scared to death of a "smart" woman.

Why do these men want to control women? Because their lives are out of control and the only thing that makes them feel "manly" is to control a woman. There is another trait that 99 percent of these men exhibit and it's plain old laziness. I watch many of them come to the U.S. and they bring the same undesirable traits with them. There are many opportunities in the U.S. but one has to be motivated and work hard. They can make a ton of money as interpreters or even enlist in the military, go to school, get a degree, and have a paycheck. There is a very few who will avail themselves of the many opportunities.

The others are satisfied to work in a restaurant until midnight, hang out with other men from their country, go to bed when normal people are getting up to go to work, and sleep until 2:00 p.m. I'm sure you've heard the saying, "You can take the boy out of the country but you can't take the country out of the boy." The saying is certainly appropriate with most of the men from Moroc. My advice to you is to take care of yourself. It is quite apparent that you are one of the very few women who post on this blog that will listen to those of us who know the religion/culture/traits of these men.

I believe you asked me if I would ever marry one of these men. The answer is quite simple. Never! I was raised in my grandmother's house and even though she had lived a life of oppression, her only goal was to see that I received an education so I could take care of myself. She was illiterate but she made very sure that my uncles began teaching me to read when I was three years of age. She believed that it was more important for girls to be educated than boys. She also taught me to never allow anyone to disrespect me. In my grandmother's house, sex role differentiation did not exist.

My uncles washed dishes, learned to cook, clean, etc. My job was to go to school and get an education so I would never have to depend on a man. My grandmother also taught me that everything that glitters is not gold. Because of the teachings of my grandmother, when I become involved with a man, he must be strong. Strong men don't abuse women. Strong women don't abuse men.

I wish you well. There is a great book that I just began reading and I highly recommend it. The title is, "America Alone." The author is Mark Steyn. It will provide insight into the religion and practices of the men mentioned on this blog. Take good care of yourself.

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