A question to the Moroccan woman

Submitted by broken heart (South Africa), Jun 5, 2008 at 15:15

As a western woman who unintentionally fell for one of your charming men, I would appreciate your views on how some - not all - Moroccan men view Western women. I know each case is specific and generalities are dangerous, but as I am still trying to understand what happened to me and why your views would be very welcome.

I was charmed by my driver and despite my better judgement was intimate with him and returned to Marrakech 3 months later just to see him. I am 17 years older than he. Why I thought he could genuinely be interested in me given our age difference is in retrospect pathetic on my part. I was fascinated by his views on life, ability to communicate, simplicity and I suppose the fact that he is so different from any man I have ever known. My mind has come to the conclusion that he just wanted financial benefits from me, and he was honest enough to tell me he had no feelings for me on the first day of my visit with him. My heart is another story, but I am working on healing and forgetting - much easier said than done as all I remember about him is the good things.

As a moroccan woman, when you see a young moroccan man with an older western woman, holding hands, or behaving in a manner that implies more than a formal relationship, what goes through your mind? Do you think badl of him, or her? In Morocco is it considered bad to see a young man with an older woman - is he viewed as a money hungry gigolo/prostitute? Would you ever consider having a relationship (a sincere one) with a man who has taken of western woman for financial gain? Do you think the men feel guilty for what they do to Western women?

Thank you

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