Sincerity of men, but there's more to it than that

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 5, 2008 at 18:10

Hi Just Me

The key red flag warnings are:

1) If you are older than he is. The bigger the age gap, the less likely this will work out

2) Money. Anyone in any relationship who asks or tries to use some sob story to get you to offer money spells trouble all over it and they don't care about you one bit, especially if done in romance. If you are sending people money, I promise you you'll never see it again.

3) If he gets mad if you ask probing, detailed questions. That usually means he has something to hide.

I don't know if this is someone you talk to on-line or not, but the other thing to keep in mind is that you are both from different cultures. That's the main reason, besides scams, why these relationships fail.

If you are talking to him on-line, your ability to detect any BS is severly hampered. This is one reason why so many women fall for this, and why many come on here to get advice.

I hope this helps.

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