To Leesa

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jun 5, 2008 at 22:19

What a great description of a sociopathic personality. Yes, he does fit the description of a scammer. Very bright but with no emotions and who sees nothing wrong with his behavior. They lie because there is nothing wrong with telling a lie to a "non-believer". On the other hand, it's ok to lie to another Muslim if the lie is beneficial to the one who is telling the lie. Confused? No, you're not because it is apparent from your comments that you have finally accepted the fact that this man isn't worth the emotional pain you have endured.

Occasionally I see a comment on this blog from someone who tries to justify the behaviors of these men by using the "austere poverty" excuse. Being poor is no excuse to lie, cheat, steal, and hate. They lie, cheat, steal, and hate because they have been taught to lie, cheat, steal, and hate. It is a way of life and is sanctioned by their families.

I, too, was raised in a very poor family but my grandmother was a Christian and she raised me according to the teachings of the Bible. Christianity uses the Ten Commandments as a blueprint for living. Even though all of us stray many times from the teachings of our elders, we do have a conscience and we feel guilty when we lie, cheat, steal, and treat others badly. I also believe that we should not allow other people to mistreat us. These men have no conscience and they feel no guilt.

Leesa, I wish you the very best. Don't be so hard on yourself. This man can never change but you can. You have the power. He is not worthy of an intelligent, decent woman.

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