to broken heart

Submitted by Stella (Canada), Jun 5, 2008 at 22:55

Hi, Just for the record, I am not Moroccan. I am a western woman who married a Moroccan man recently. I am not impressed at the assumption made by many Moroccan or middle eastern women who think that their men just view us as toys to play with and throw away. There are men who fall in love with women from everywhere in the world and visa versa.

Every situation is different. I am older than my husband and I don't care who looks at us on the street. He looks older for his age and I look young for mine. Many people had a negative opinion about our situation and even I doubted that it was real until I watched very carefully and realized it was my own mistrust and suspicion that was causing problems. Men are all the same. They like the chase and if you let them, they will try to get away with as much as possible. They are the same in the western world.

If you care what people think and keep asking for opinions, you will set yourself up to fail with this guy. The truth is right in front of you. There are users everywhere, evening some Moroccan women are users. I have seen enough young beautiful ones with old disgusting men and I am sure I know the reason. This is a third world country where people are desperate for a better life. We would be no different and there is nothing wrong with wanting a better life.

I took a chance and finally believed that my boyfriend was sincere. I had every paper signed to protect my assets for many reasons. First of all, I hope we never divorce, but in that unlikely event, I know that who you marry is not who you divorce and we have agreed already how the assets will be divided. He actually liked the idea. It also saves me from someone ever telling me that he married me for financial reasons.

So I am not sure if I am answering your questions or getting to the point, but simply love smart, but don't hold your heart back. Hold your finances close to you because you worked hard to get where you are I assume. You can love someone without giving up everything. Have your boundaries and make him work for you. Let him see that you are not jello without him and believe it.

As for the age difference. I too was concerned, but I believe that I am worthy and my age brings experience and understanding that a younger woman will one day thave too.

We are expecting our first baby and our relationship is growing everyday!

I wish you luck and remember to keep your heart and eyes open because the truth is always in front of you.

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