Such great advice...but I have been saying it all along

Submitted by FARRAH'S BACK! (United States), Jun 7, 2008 at 15:01

Sugar Nut, I am so sorry for your friend in Amsterdam.

I hope the older ladies out there listen up! It is shameful to marry older woman in their culture. They do not want woman who cannot bear child. That's how they break away from you. And if the family is really nice, lucky you have even MET them!! Most of us don't!! But they are the true evils....there is young lady waiting in the wings...O! and if you meet their "cousins" they definately don't care for you!! Don't even start chatting w/ them if they r not in your town. There are plenty here...but notice something?....if they are already in America, they will not be interested. It's only the ones STUCK in their home country.

I really love my man...but the writing is on the wall. We NEVER go out. I have NEVER met his friends that call CONSTANTLY on his cell phone. He doesn't even acknowledge me!! He is insisting I convert.

Remember , ALL of their sins are washed away if they bring someone to Islam. I am deeply embarrased because I can see on people's faces, that he must have just married her for a green card. I can't say my man has "game". BUT I was "ripe for the pickin". Alone, no family, full-figured. Remember, I'm the one who accepted my man living in another state w/ another "elder" woman.

He is here in my home permanently now but I am still the fool. When he left to work today, I could not wait to come to this message board to touch base with my "sisters" who are going through the same things. Don't get me wrong. If you are financially able, go and live your dream...but it's UNBELIEVABLE how they change. I would suggest if you are chubby, get in shape. They feel a woman should be beautiful. Turn the tables on THEM!! have plan B when they leave. Have grace & dignity too. If you are blessed w/children, love them. O! and for all of you that convert to please him, which is what I will probably do. ..and they say divorce is haraam and they would NEVER do it!! Hah!! yes they will!!! And I luv how they blame a woman's "character" as the reason for divorce. There is something that we are blessed with..."woman's intuition" it's there for a reason. Pray that my marriage turns to happiness and a small family....pray for me please

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