Double Standard?

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 9, 2008 at 04:54

I think the problem is that a lot of women and men who date on-line seem to allow too much slack. Part of this is because unlike dating someone closer and in real life, they can't communicate as effectively, and no, emoticons and webcam won't cut it. The other part is I think in today's society, racism is a cardinal sin, and a lot of people worried about being seen as a racist, so they put up with extra lies and mistakes that normally would end a relationship.

The other thing is you mentioned three months. That's too soon to know anyone, especially someone in another country.

The other problem here are the cultural differences. I think the media is obsessed with interracial, intercultural relationships and diversity, to be honest. Some of the testimonies I've heard about people who interested in dating outside their race, for example, tell me that seeing interracial pornography sparked their interest. I can't say I'm an expert on this, but it seems to me this is a driving force between interracial interaction. I find that sad, because I would guess that 99% of the people in the business aren't even couples, and most of them, if they get hitched, will do so with someone who looks and thinks similarly to what they do.

Media aside, look at the actual facts on intercultural dating. Most people on planet Earth don't do it. Take the USA, for instance. I'm sure you've heard about stereotytpes about blonde, Caucasian women and how they'll do anyone.

Here are the facts: 98% of all married white women are married to white men. It isn't even close. In a recent survey, 97% of them said they would not consider dating interracially unless there was an income disparity.

In truth, white men date more interracially than white women.

Countries like the UAE (over 50% South Asian) and Iceland have very stringent rules and taboos on interracial dating for cultural preservation, but so lots of places, it's just not written in law.

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