Thank you Moroccan/US woman

Submitted by broken heart (South Africa), Jun 9, 2008 at 18:21

Thank you for your kind words and explanation. You are lucky to have found a man that has the integrity to maintain a healthy relationship.

I have not heard from my friend following his promise to call me back. I suppose he is not interested in the hassle with me despite the possibility of gifts.

I was taken by his different background, his resolute belief in things and his curiosity and willingness to learn from me on subjects he knew little about. He always said that as the man in a relationship he could never be with a woman that earned or had more than him as he would not consider it right. He also said that his mother would present him with choices to marry as it would be his wife that would care for her as she got old. He said that marriage would be arranged by the family and that love would follow. My optimistic western mind kept hoping that he would allow his heart to lead his actions coupled with the desire that I would be the one that his heart would fall for.

When I gave him his gifts he said no woman had ever bought him clothes before though he had several western woman that had wanted to see him after their initial meeting. I was one of two that ever followed up with him and the only one that he spent the night with.

I may have scared him with my open desire for him and willingness to either relocate or have him relocate. I think this would scare any man as how can you love someone after only a brief meeting.

He know I will be in Morocco at the end of the month for business and I suggested we meet up again. I know he wants an ipod, which I offered. However he said he would buy himself things he needs and does not need gifts. Even with this possibility looming I have not heard from him. My guess is that his Harem is full and I am too much work due to my desire for him.

I am too old and experienced to be acting and feeling this way. But I cannot help myself. This man is amazing. Every day gets easier but the hope that the phone will ring has never diminished. I find myself reading everything about the Amazigh, Islam and Morocco and all this does is deepen my interest in the country and its people.

Thank you again.

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