Egyptian man--Do you really want to

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 9, 2008 at 21:04

spend the money to hire someone to do this? It will not be cheap, and from what you've told us on here already, this sure sounds like a scam.

The father in the hospital story? Interesting sob story. I guess it's a little twist from the usual (Help! I'm stuck in Nigeria!) excuse.

Ask yourself this: If his father and family are really in dire straits, why does he have internet access and a cell phone?

You'd think a loving a son would give that up to help his father, no?

Honestly, if I were in your shoes I would block on him on your phone.

I went through a similar as you a few years ago with a woman I met on-line. We were both Americans, but she would come up with sob stories about how she would get evicted or had no clothes and she needed money.

She never directly asked for money, but she put me in a position where I would offer it to her.

After I cut contact with her (Her parents helped me catch her cheating) she called me at least twice a day for nearly a month and a half. After I told her to stop it, she would only call on holidays. I'm guessing that this what a therapist of some sort told her to do.

Eventually, she started e-mailing me again and I gave her a second chance. We wentt out to dinner and to her house, and she insisted she had changed, but in subtle ways she insisted that she needed all the things I had bought her when we were dating that her parents gave back to me.

The thing is that people like this almost never change. She was seeing a therapist, and when we were dating she said she wanted to see one. Yet I told her that it probably wouldn't work, because it would mean she would have to change her behavior, and let's face it, we don't like change, especially when someone else is telling us what to do.

My family is concerned that this woman will find a way to contact me if she is in dire straights again--maybe even a few years from now.

The same can be said for your man. He's not going to give up! You must make a firm decision to leave him with no loose ends like text messages. This is the hardest part of a distance, on-line relationship, and it's what scammers count on! They want you to invest in them so it's harder to leave them, make you feel like there's no turning back now, but there is!!

What really helped me move on was spending time with people in real life. Expand your social circles in your own home country, get to know more people. Don't waste time talking to losers on the internet. You deserve better.

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