To Lost in the wild desert

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jun 9, 2008 at 21:27

I'm sorry to be the bearer of the bearer of a gallon of insight but first of all, thanks for discussing your experience. Let me just say you are one lucky lady. First of all you're insightful and very savvy. Purchasing the "flat" was a smoke screen for bilking you out of $11,000. Then when he couldn't manipulate you into sending him money for God only knows what purpose (I strongly suspect that he's trying to get money together for a wedding), soon thereafter his poor father became desperately ill and needed a coronary bypass operation.

It's a shame that these men don't have enough motivation to go into acting. They are born actors and could make millions if they put their talents to good use. When he calls or texts you, tell him that he is a liar and you don't intend to fall into his trap. If he begs, pleads, and, oh, yes, calls you "habibi", tell him "habibi loves gold - expensive gold." He'll move on real fast. The way to deal with these men is to stand toe-to-toe. Another good retort to his whining is, "the problem is you finally met an intelligent woman." These men run like scared rabbits when they realize they have met an intelligent woman who doesn't succumb to their demands.

Just remember, you can do bad by yourself. You don't need a narcissistic man tugging at your emotions. Life is too short. Good luck.

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