Dear Farrah--Why should you have to convert?

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 10, 2008 at 22:34

Farrah, our paths do not seem to cross too often on here, but there is one thing I do not understand.

You give some very sensible advice on here, yet you acknowledge that your marriage is turning out to be like of the folks whom you give advice to.

I've read your posts, yet I won't pretend to know what every circumstance is, but more and more your relationship is sounding like the myspace one I used to have.

To be blunt, Farrah, your husband has you under his thumb. That is not an equitable marriage, especially when you feel you should convert to Islam because it's convienent.

Dr. Pipes touches on this a little when he talks about Italian women making the switch. They do it not because they believe Islam is the truth, they do it to make the man happy.

That is why belligerent Muslim men are extremely protective of women in their religion. They know that a Muslim woman is just as prone as an atheist or Christian to convert if she falls in love. That's why the barbaric ways of Islam allow for honor killings and massive discrimination against women: to try and keep Islam growing. That is the whole point to the conversion and marrying of Western women in the Islamic philosophy. Love? pffft! Yeah, right.

In fact, I'm starting to wonder if you man even loves you. He sure as heck doesn't respect you, that's for sure, but I can't say I'm the least bit surprised.

Why should you have to convert to that outdated philosophy of his? Why can't he do what you want for a change? Is he is so insecure that he needs control over everything you do?

That's why you don't go out, Farrah. He's probably afraid some guy will look at you with lust. I'll bet that's it.

This whole situation you are in stinks. I feel as though you need to be able to do want you want in this. It reminds of this one testimony I heard about how a Western woman married a Moroccan Muslim man. All he wanted to do was sit in the house and listen to tapes in Urdu about the Koran. She was so happy to get out of out of that dump when she finally realized it was time to move on.

Farrah, I will pray for you, but I also will pray that your husband will be the one converting, not you.

In all honestly, if your man doesn't respect you or can't see you as an equal in a marriage, I would leave his sorry little rear and find someone else more worth your time.

Seriously, Farrah, why should you have to be the fool? He's the one who has your household running like a backwards aristocracy.

Just because you are married, doesn't mean there isn't any turning back. You can end this, if you want to. He's not master of you. You are your own person and just as valuable as a human being as he is, even if he does practice his "mighty" Islam.

Would you put with this nonsense from a Western man? Probably not. So why give him extra leniency?

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