Farrah "What Happens Now"

Submitted by Leigh (United States), Jun 11, 2008 at 10:37

I have not read all your comments, but you seems to be in a little deeper like me than some of the rest.

My muslim husband sent for me and we married. He paid for everything and had even hired a Lawyer there in his country to handle the immagration. I knew we were going to marry, but the immagration lawyer, who has lived in the US and is now a citizen, I did not know about. He gave me the fees and the paperwork to bring back to the US to file.

I have acknowledged now that I am a green card for him; in which I sort of thought from the beginning but went through with it anyway. The thing is, I have not filed the papers because I have questions. One is, I live in the South Carolina, these paper are addressed to go to Chicago. When I get some number, I am to email it to this Lawyer in my husband's country. The lawyer told us he could wait his 7 or 8 months in his country, so that when he gets his greencard, he can come and immediately go to work here in the US. Is that a permanent greencard or temporary? Do these procedures sound familiar to you or anyone?

He was nice to me there and I enjoyed being there in his country (to visit that is). All the "I love you," I use to get when we chat, taked on the phone, and in emails, I was not getting until I questioned him about them and he would then try to force the words out, after he realized I had noticed. The intimacy was not what I expected, but Ok. For one, mother nature showed up, so he blamed that. He say it will get better when we are together again. I'm attractive, and I am thinking this may be his personality.

Because in the package, there is a copy of his divorce paper that was granted by the Court from his ex-wife of 6 years, and it stated in the translation (one divorce) like she divorced him, releasing him of all his duties and asking for her liberity back. This is another thing that has me wondering. He does tell me that he can take up to 4 wives at one time if he wanted to, but no one does it anymore because they can't afford to do that now. He thinks I have filed the papers, but I haven't, and don't know if I want to yet.

Can I consider myself divorced if I don't file them? I do get the "I love you", very often, now that I am back in the US. I haven't met the family and I don't think they know about me. He said they would not approve and would try to stop him. A matter of fact he claim his brother and his wife is visiting him now at this moment for a month, so he won't be able to chat with me as much or talk on the phone, unless its early in the day there, in which I am at work. I don't know what to think with him. He comes at me in a different way. I feel for your situation and I am wondering when he comes here, will that be our marriage.

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