To Broken Heart

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jun 12, 2008 at 16:54

Wow! Sister, you have used every defense mechanism there is, and as a matter of fact you have even conjured up some new ones. First of all, poverty is no excuse to lie, cheat, steal, use, and abuse. I, too, like many others who post here was raised in a very poor environment. Does that give me the right to use and abuse a man? Of course it doesn't. My grandmother raised me with a set of values. She did not teach me to hate. She did not teach me to lie. She did, however, teach me a sound value system. Of course we all stray from the teachings of our family at times but as we mature we realize how important those teachings are.

I am not going to expound on the teachings of Islam because if you think it's kind and gentle, so be it. If Christianity taught me that I should hate those who are Jewish and of other faiths, I'd walk away from it quick, fast and in a great big hurry. Many westerners do not understand that the goal of Muslims is to take over the world. If you want to walk around in a hijab and abaya, more power to you. If you want to be treated like a piece of furniture by a man, go for it, sister. My great-grandmother had no choice but the women who came after her had a choice and trust me, we aren't going to be stopped by a bunch of zealots at this point in our lives. Are you aware that if a Muslim converts to Judaism or Christianity, he/she can never go home again or the visit will be cut very short by death. In other words, he/she will be slaughtered.

You have the right to spend your money in any way you choose. However, let me say if you are concerned about the plight of poor Moroccans, identify a charity that sponsors shelters for abused women and children and/or programs for street children. God knows there are plenty of street children who need a kind heart and strong hand. Donate your money to a good cause that will help instead of allowing a ruthless man to use and abuse you. You can even spend your vacation in Moroc working in a shelter. Take off the blinders and get a glimpse of the abuse that abounds for women and children.

I regret that I am so straightforward but let me say that my blood boils when I see women rationalizing and justifying the behaviors of grown men who couldn't care less about a woman from a western country. Would you be so quick to justify a western man's behavior if he wanted "dis and dat"? Of course you wouldn't. You'd talk real bad about him and his mama.

We women who live in the west are blessed. If we go to school, work hard, and take care of ourselves, the sky is the limit. We owe a large debt to the women who suffered for many years so we can enjoy the rights we have today. As I have written many times on this blog, American women couldn't vote until the twentieth century. Even women who were raised during the 1950s and 1960s had to fight to work in positions that had traditionally been "for men only."

In summary, before I allow myself to be used and abused by anyone, I will take a good book to bed and if I fall asleep while reading it, I'll spend the night with it. Knowledge is powerful, sister.

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