Miriam: Comments about straight talking

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 13, 2008 at 18:28

You make a solid point about on-line blogging: it's hard to tell sometimes if the person is really mad, or just being up front.

I have gotten accused of being bitter and angry from my myspace woman debacle and untraveled. I can see how inexperienced bloggers may think that, but it's just not true.

The only reason I share my stories about on-line dating are to prevent others from making the same mistakes I have. I'm not out to win some cultural war against Berbers or Arabs nor do I think they are the only ones who scam.

I would hope that I have made that very clear. One of the things I've gotten hammered for is insinuating that all Moroccans or Egyptians men are bad. But really, it's not that (the birth rates clearly show otherwise) it has to do with intercultural dating more than anything else, and most people don't do it. The fact the the men discussed on here are Muslim or from Muslim-majority countries---all it does is shape the motive.

Many of the testimonies on here involve women who have been married to or in serious relationships with other Western men, so these men really aren't even first choice.

Sometimes, people just miss the points entirely. I think pretty much all the posters on here who give advice really just want to help for the most part.

I've always felt the best way to give advice is to do so honestly. Every once in a while, you'll come across someone who wants to be told things that will make them feel better.

You know, like "everything will work out, love can get through anything" when the facts speak otherwise.

By far, most of the women on here who seek advice do so with an open mind. That's a major credit on their part, because women value privacy, and they may not get the answer they are looking for. I really do admire them, because they are one step ahead of me when I was dating a dopey woman on-line.

I've been watching with some interest your conversation with stella, and I'm happy that she took the time to read my long-winded post.

The thing is, Miriam, I've noticed how the only people on here who will defend these relationships are Western women who are in them. It's not Muslim men or even Muslim women, in fact, many of them who post on here just say "Well, you know, a real Muslim doesn't act like that" as opposed to defending their behavior.

I've also noticed that UK and Canadians are the most ardent defenders, probably because their countries are saturated in multicultural nonsense from schools to the media and everything inbetween.

I think that you do a good job on here. The nice thing about this forum, and really most all of Dr. Pipes's personal pages, is that it involves mature adults, and in the case of this webpage, most everyone has been in a serious relationship.

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