Re: Luigi's advice to about to commit

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jun 14, 2008 at 14:04

Just a couple of things to add to Luigi's reply..

Re: getting to know someone in person - in my experience this isn't always going to help. The acting is superb and you are often too blinded by infatuation and/or desperation to see what's right in front of you. And these guys can keep up the pretense for years until they get the visa in their hand. What is required is lots of time in order to see the many puzzle pieces fall into place, as in any relationship.

re: rushing into marriage - I read something on one of the msn loverat groups that explained perfectly why women get caught in these traps. The poster said these women are often at a point in their lives where they need to make important decisions about the direction their life should take and feel a great emptiness, particularly for those who are middle aged and feeling the pressure of time at their heels. And so they grab this "lifeline" that is thrown to them - quick marriage to charming middle eastern man and presto - no more decisions to be made. The prince climbs up the tower and whisks the princess off to a castle. Something to think about.

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