Second post for Lilly--

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 15, 2008 at 05:27

Hi again Lilly, and thanks for being so open-minded.

I know that you just want to be happy.

Isis really hit the nail on the head, I think. It's really, really important for you to get different viewpoints about Islam, and not just from your man.

She also mentions the communication barrier. That is something that works against you. I know you said he works and all that, but you do you know it for a FACT?

A few years ago I met a Nigerian woman on-line. She claimed to be working for an advertising agency in Cleveland. After I searched, I couldn't find the name of the advertising agency she had given to me, because it was a made-up name.

I also was talking to a woman I met from Suriname over the internet. She claimed to be studying medical physics. Interestingly enough, it was the same field my roommate was in, and I did ask her about it and she got offended or didn't answer my questions.

The real issue I see here is the quick marriage. You said you have a boyfriend, yet, you're ready to commit/marry someone else you know mostly from MSN?

Also the age difference is still a concern. It's good that you both seemed to have lived most of your lives as adults, HOWEVER, many women on here have said that Moroccan men do not accept older women. I side with this point of view, because I'm 26 myself, and it's a little tough to imagine myself seriously involved with someone who's even a little older than me. I would have reservations about dating someone who is 29, to be honest.

It's a lot more obvious if you, as a woman, are 20 or more years older, but there is a growing trend in the West and in North Africa of younger men having flings with older women. But, Lilly, that's all they are is flings.

Calling your child his son, is he? Well, Lilly, in all honesty, that's a dating trick to build rapport with you. It may be geninue, and then it may not. I can remember meeting a girl on myspace. She had a son, and I would frequently ask about him, and it was because I was interested in dating her and because I actually cared. Like your man, more or less, I become "good friends" with her over Yahoo chat, and when she broke up with her boyfriend, I made a move on her, but I never referred to myself as a father to her child.

I feel that what you need to think about it is would you permit a quick marriage proposal and a parental claim of your son by a man from your home country that you had met once or twice? Wouldn't that creep you out even a little? Because if you don't, then there is a double standard here, and that's not good because what it tells me, as a guy, is that your senses, the ones that pick up on bogus men, are dulled by attraction and that you are not on your guard.

Attraction will go down over time. I think you two are in what my ex-girlfriend would call the "honeymoon" phase of your "relationship", where everything seems perfect. Scammers and liars try and orchestrate a quick marriage while in this stage, because they realize the more you invest, the more you feel inclined to at least take a chance.

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