For Yasemin

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jun 15, 2008 at 11:29

Thanks for the kind words. Yes, understanding the culture is a "must." However, Islam controls the culture and the government. I have seen so many posts on this blog about the corrupt governments. The governments are controlled by the religion and sometimes if people do not understand that culture and government are controlled by the teachings of Islam, they tend to blame just the government officials.

I'm sorry that you experienced such grief from your husband. However, one of life's many blessings is that insightful people learn from their mistakes and move on. As I have noted many times in my posts, once these men realize they are dealing with an intelligent woman, they run like scared rabbits. Why? Since most have only interacted with females who cater to their whims and whams, they cannot deal with powerful women.

Why do these men try to control women? Because their lives are totally out of control and the only power they have is to abuse (emotionally and physically) a female. These men are filled with intense anger and the interesting part is they have learned to control the anger long enough to get what they want from a western woman. Once the prize has been won, the "real" personality is displayed.

Yasemin, you're bright, insightful and you learned a lesson that you will never forget. Emotional pain can be a large motivational tool. Sadly, some women just don't believe some of the sound advice posted on this blog. One of my grandmother's many sayings was, "A hard head makes for a soft behind."

Take good care of yourself and every morning and night thank God for endowing you with good common sense.

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