dear, thanks for asking my opinion but....

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Jun 15, 2008 at 13:25

Leah, our situation is not quite the same, as my man was already here in America...but in the beginning of my marriage I allowed him to live w/ ANOTHER WOMAN who he claims was so old, because his job was close to HER home. I lived in a different state than him....Anyway that was MY CRAZY MOMENT. We live together now in my town...

Back to you... Yes, the immigration procedures that the lawyer described are normal BUT!! 2 key things. Immigration looks closely at your case!!! Is there a big age difference? And it's true, by waiting there; when he comes he will be able to work here immediately...but where will he work? Do you have jobs lined up? Can he speak English well?

If he is young and single, why didnt he come back with you or why didnt you STAY there til the papers cleared. Your papers going to Chicago is fine. That may be the closest center for your area. That's just the initial stages. You will be scheduled interviews closer to home.I say file the papers...if there is fraud immigration will catch it. I.e. divorce papers are false, big differences in age....things like that.. Did you take lots of photos of the marriage when you were there?? Honeymoon, etc?? No photos, no green card. If his friends/family don't know of this bad, bad sign.If you returned to America because of work , that's okay. And USINCS does not care if you met online BUT they want to see email/chat logs of a sincere & consistent relation. Good luck on that.

Muslim men do not profess "love" like we expect and intimacy when a woman is menstruating is a no-no in Islam.

I am sorry that you have to wait 7-8 months to see him again...but aren't Angels wonderful? they nudge our "tummies" when something is "not right" , and make it difficult for men to profess "love" to us face to face when they really don't mean it. Listen to your Angel honey...she/he will help you along this path.

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