Youtube...ugggh...

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 17, 2008 at 04:52

Well, Farrah, I have to admit, youtube may play a key role in his lifestyle. There's plenty of Islamist propaganda on there, and quite frankly, the liberals who run the site are too scared of belligerent Muslim men to take the videos down. It's gotten to a point here in America where the national legislature may soon take action.

I really can only shake my head at this because there isn't a lot of good on youtube. It's full of teenagers who pose as adults and it acts as a forum for people would say things on there they would never say to anyone's face. The discussion section bites, and I think it was originally meant for video comments, but instead every video has a debate going on about "I'm right, you're wrong" kind of nonsense. It's nothing like this site and just takes up precious bandwidth. The only thing they really do right on there is keep the porn off.

I appreciate your brutal honesty and willingness to share your situation, but to me, it seems like you have a double standard here if you wouldn't put up with it from a Western man. I realize that you are now married and see this man everyday, but I think this standard exists because the woman likes the way he looks so the guy gets a free pass.

Regarding the passion in your relationship, don't buy into the fact that just because he's religious doesn't mean he doesn't like sex. It's a myth, just like some guys in the West who think that women don't like sex.

Whenever your male partner tells you that he's not interested in sex, it could very well mean he's no longer attracted to you. This would especially be the case if you are a lot older than him, but I gather that you are both the same age.

I don't know if this is a regular occurrence on his part, but if it is, I would keep my eyes and ears open, because this is often the first step towards adultery. Meaning that, if he's dissatisfied with sex life with you, he could seek it elsewhere and with someone younger. It sounds like he's at least not happy, and the healthy excuse is nonsense.

Of course, if you're not allowed to leave the house, this becomes more difficult. Maybe that's what he wants.

If you do convert, Farrah, don't expect him to be pleased by it or to treat you better. To a conservative-minded like this, it will not be enough. To him, it would simply be a victory, not a compromise, and he would try even more to control your every move. He certainly will not hold himself to the same standard that he expects you to live, that's for sure. Men can be just like that, and I wouldn't say it's even an Islamic thing.

The Hijab though is a different story. I would say the real reason behind it is to keep other men from looking at you. It's not even a requirement in Islam, though. Let's face, you know you're an attractive woman who puts time and effort into her looks, and that's great.

A word about materialism, Farrah, it will never bring you happiness. My myspace woman was so into this it's unreal, because she thought it could make her happy.

It will never ever bring you true happiness, Farrah.

At the very least, you need to make crystal clear your feelings to your husband.

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