Money and Motives

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 17, 2008 at 18:47

Dear Leigh,

Thank you for your kind words.

Unfortunately, money is not always the motive in for a scammer. Sometimes, they just want a visa or something else.

The other warning signs beside money, as you probably already know are saying I love you too soon and a quick marriage.

The thing is, all my experiences where a woman had said "I love you" without meeting me have turned out sour.

In real life, as a guy, I know full well that if I told a woman I hadn't met not that I loved her but just "I like you," it would spoil any chance of a relationship. That is a common mistake among men.

Getting to know someone after you are married is a recipe for a bad relationship and a major gamble. Part of the culture, huh? Well, it sure fits the bill of an arranged marriage. Some Muslims don't see marriage as a sacrament, like couples in my religion do. To them, it's a legal agreement.

http://shariahfinancewatch.wordpress.com/2008/03/20/muslim-marriage-arranged-under-shariah-law-over-the-telephone-ruled-to-be-invalid-in-britain/

The problem with waiting to see if we like each other after we are married is that you may not. Then what? The other issue is: Marriage isn't like a finish line. The problems with international marriages often don't surface right away, it can take, I'd say 2-5 years for them to fully climax.

This happens with Russian women. They come over here, and they learn English, get a liscence, and leave the man, but it doesn't happen overnight.

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