yes exactly the same for me.....

Submitted by mare (United States), Jun 17, 2008 at 20:09

Dear Leesa,

wow, your story is exactly my story which makes me wonder if this is some sort of networking to marry USA women. I have been communicating with a man from Khemisset, no matter what I say to him, he has an answer, it always seems like the right one, but like you said, there are so many other little lies in between that never leave your mind, and when I ask him about the woman and three children I always see in the background, he says they are his brothers.

but one time his "brother" came in to say hi on the webcam, he said hello I am hammadi's friend, which caused me to ask more questions, but still he has an answer for everything.

There are so many wrong things I have seen throughout the sixteen months of communication. One is wearing several layers of clothing, finding several websites on myspace with his picture only to have glasses on in some, head coverings in some, etc., he can change his voice to sound like mickey mouse to the hulkster, he is very much off the wall character, but I find him to be interesting.

He claims he is single, he cries on cue, he says he will die if I dont go there to marry him, all this I know its for him to come here to the states. He said one time if I thought he was a terrorist, he said he is very egotistical, he says he has been single all his forty three years of his life never finding love but one time, but she broke his heart and he can't seem to find love until I came along and I am his soulmate, etc.

Well, I go on being online with this man, for he seems like the newspaper I read every day, he is different sometimes he gets so violently mad, he acts like a child, he cries so hard, he says one thing like I am the sweetest man in the world, yet he says you are a f...b..., and I said we don't take to good to be called this by anyone here, and he said all I said is i want to f.. you, thats all, I love you so much I want to f... you, wow. I feel like you do, I know all my time spent here is so wrong, its a waste of my time, yet there is something intriguing about this man.

I have found many email addresses where he is using my name, I have found men emailing me after I sent him pictures of myself, and all men are from Morocco, I think he is using my pictures on a website to obtain money from men, this is what Hammadi use to do, when we first got online, there would be the same four men getting online saying they loved me, one was from New York and went to Africa to help his mom, one from Oklahoma with his mother in Africa, all stories were the same, and at this time Hammadi was always online, things like this always happened, one time he had a silver ring on his finger, he was always dressing so classy, he said he was poor, but bought a computer for his home, the best webcam, headphones, he has a very nice mobile phone, he is not what he claims to be.

He said to me several times that if I went to Morocco to marry him, he would buy me everything, he would give me gifts of everything he had. Well, I am still skeptical, I am still doing my best to get away from this man, he calls me and cries so hard, so bad that I pity him. He cries at the drop of a needle. I feel this man doesn't have a sincere heart, that he is just one other man who wants a visa to America.

I feel like I am being taken advantage of, but I still can't get this man away from me, when I was so naive in love online, I made a mistake in giving him my work cell, my home number, now it looks like I have to change this to move on. I am very tired, my ass is sore from sitting here dreaming of a dream that will only lead to the same situtations as all the other stories here on danielpipes.

I am not willing or ready to accept this fall, I want to be head strong and walk away. I want to feel the strong independant woman that I am and say good riddance once and for all. But I think within all the women here on this site, it comes down to being needed, because these men strip you naked, and get into your soul, they ask you questions until they know just who you are, they do this until they think they are the only one who knows you, and I believe him, yet there is the one guardian of mine that says its not right. That is where the fight lays, you know right from wrong, and know this man is not totally right.

I am thankful for this site, it has over the months been a godsend to me, I feel for all women, who have the desire to find love, to have someone just love for who they are, but the down side is that man does eventually leave you, he goes on his own once he gets here and does his own thing. So this is where I am at, I don't want to spend all the money to go there, buy this ticket, to get married to a man who I never met in person before, dress as if I were a princess, have a blissful time while I am there, only to be back here on this site again, waiting and wondering if my husband is sincere, does he have a family.

Well I want out, I always did, but its hard to get rid of this man, he is like a tick sucking my blood, draining me of all my life here, making me feel as if I belong there. I don't ,I am Native American, and he thinks I am Moroccan like him, which scares me more, that I can get lost in the Moroccan society if I ever married him. I don't feel this is right.

Please help me with your suggestions, comments, your ideas on how i can get this man to leave me alone. I am ready to do this, I am ready finally to leave from this nonsense. Its not good for my heart, mind, and soul. Your story is like mine. He is making every excuse about msn, yahoo, the cam, online time, the time, everything, he does it over and over, it makes me wonder if this man will collapse from all the online chat he does with others. He is so old looking for his age, I am sure he is stressing out.

Finally Leesa, please look into your heart and you will see just what exactly you need to do, we need to ask God to help us all who are here, unhappy, distraught, in misery over a man, I for one I want help to get away. I will search for this within my native upbringing. I wish you all luck in whatever you do. Please answer me back with support to you I hope this emails gives you.

Take care. Mare

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