From one American to another

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 18, 2008 at 17:41

Dear Mare:

Thanks so much for coming out to share your story. I know you addressed this to Leesa, but I thought these suggestions might help to get this man out of your life.

1) Delete him from your contact list on your cell phone, speed dial, instant messanger or whatever you use. If you have to change your number or even uninstall AIM or whatever chat you use, then do it! After I broke it off with my woman, i didn't do those, and later she snared me back for a while longer. Honestly, you need to take the intiative here.

2) Do more in real life. Expand your social circles. Go out more, meet new people, do something different, and treat yourself.

The WORST thing you can do is sit and watch your phone hoping he'll call or sit in front of your computer hoping something might happen.

This is really important, especially if you want to meet another guy. Decent men won't waste their time with women who are attached to their exes.

I'm sorry to hear that he thinks you are Moroccan, and I can understand how that would be disturbing. I grew up just across the lake from an Indian Reservation in small town in a trailer house, and I can understand how strange and frightening it must seem to be seen as Moroccan, something you're not. I've lived abroad, but it feels like I am perceived as all- white by a lot of people (I'm multiracial) because of my lighter skin tone.

The most unfair thing about on-line relationships is that they seem real, and they can hurt people. But I give you credit for doing this, mare. You're a lot farther along than I was, that's for sure.

Mare, I will remember you in my prayers. I know you have the strength to do this. If I can do it, you can too.

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