I just broke up with my muslim egyptian boyfriend

Submitted by Candy Carmichael (United States), Jun 18, 2008 at 18:40

I am a christian woman who met and fell in love with a muslim man online recently.

I just planned on us being friends only , because knowing that he was muslim I could never be in a relationship with him.

But as time went on we talked almost everyday, he called me very often and we talked online for hours at a time. No matter how tired he was from work that day he always made time for me. Next thing you know I was in love with him and he told me he loved me. He was unlike any man I have ever met before online or in real, and I have been in quite a few relationships in real and online. I have never met a man who respected me more.

We began to talk about being together and marriage. We even talked about him converting.

I even picked out the wedding cake and chose my wedding dress. Which I have never done before,which totally surprised myself and my family. When I told my family about him , they warned me that God didn't want christians marrying muslims and to really think and pray about it.

I fasted for a few days ,read the bible and prayed sooo much about this. I asked God to show me what to do in a dream or give me sign or something.

Then very recently I began reading there horrible stories online about how the women who fell in love and married these muslim men suddenly changed after they got married and they were no longer the nice , charming,gentle ,patient ,loving men they were when they first met,and how they regretted getting married and now they wanted to warn all the christian and catholic women who are thinking about marrying these muslim men to not do it.

Just like other women said in their stories I felt as though he was meant to be my husband,he seemed so perfect for me.

I tried to leave him a few days ago ,but he cried and said he couldn't bear life wothout me and how he wanted to die if I couldn't be with him,so I told him I wouldn't leave him. But I continued reading horror story after horror story about these failed and painful marriages/relationships.

I was so stressed I started smoking again. I realized that this was too much for my brain to handle,all this information.

I felt as though there must be a reason for me finding all theses warnings and stories. Now I will always be in doubt and never trust him 100% and now afraid of my future with this man. I realized that my chances of getting married and living happily ever after with this man, were slim to none. Even though I love him I knew that I could not be with him anymore.

So today I left him and my heart aches,but I'm still not sure if I did the right thing .

Could someone please give me some advice? Thanks

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