Rejects is what you'll find on-line

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 18, 2008 at 20:10

That's just the reality of the situation. Meeting someone over the internet is really not a good idea.

I have family members and friends who are on many of the social networking sites, but they don't add people or talk to people they don't know. It's just an easy way to stay in touch and share photos.

For the most part, people who spend lots of time on-line looking to meet people socially or on a personal level (maintaining a website and blogging CAN be different) aren't what you would call marriage material by a long shot.

Normal people who are in stable relationships don't need the attention of someone else on the internet. People who are truly in secure, stable relationships and marriages don't need to come on here---or anywhere----and justify it or seek third-party approval.

That's why, Wanda, everyone on here asking for advice has
1) met their man on vacation and now communicate via distance or
2) met him on-line.

Despite the claims by many women on here who are in relationships with an (insert adjective here) man, the liars and scammers all use the same tricks and play the same games. I can't even add up all the narratives I've read on here and think to myself: This is all to familiar.

The only thing I don't agree with is that not all these men are dirt poor. I know what it's like to be poor, and when you have a big family to feed and none of your parents currently have jobs, internet access or a cell phone isn't an option, even for your "soulmate" in another country.

This often comes in the form of a sob story, to get money or sympathy or sex.

Sending anyone money, even relatives, is a BAD idea. I can pretty much promise you that you'll never ever see it again, 100% sure if in relationship. At least, I have never heard of a single case where a significant amount of money was borrowed and returned outside of loans directly from the bank, and as I'm sure you know many Westerners have problems even paying those back even with legal action and house and car repossession hanging over their heads.

That's good advice, though, Wanda. Some women will listen, some won't. I understand why women feel it's difficult to listen to me. I went through the exact same thing, and yes, ladies, scams and liars are all the same and it transcends gender, culture, religion, nationality, ect.

I had my Wandas, my Yasemins, my Zellas who told me it was a sham. but I was too in love and proud to listen, and I paid the price.

Sadly, Wanda, it's one of those psychological experiences that's easy to poke fun at, laugh at, or just tell someone "I'm sorry this happened to you" while thinking "it can't happen to me."

I can pretty much promise you several women who have read the advice on here are going to have to learn the hard way. No one can really stop them. If they are really unlucky, they'll end up stuck for good in their man's country. It's happened before, several times.

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