No redflags

Submitted by tatlikiz (United States), Jun 18, 2008 at 21:07

I posted earlier (about just breaking up with my egyptian boyfriend),but as I'm reading these stories on here, I 'm even more confused and in doubt.

The egyptian man I just broke up with did not give me any reason to doubt him

or to think him as a liar or scammer.

There has been no red flags yet.

As I wrote before I had other relationships online been hurt by men in other countries as well as men here ,so I think I know what to watch out for .

He has never cursed at me ,yelled at me or called me out of my name.

He also has never asked me for any money.

He knows that I'm not rich or even close and he is not rich either.

He wants to take care of me and said that even if he had to work 2 jobs ,he would ,to make sure I have everything I need and want.

He seems to be of the the most patient ,kind hearted ,sincere, and positive thinking man I have ever met.

I have spoken to his sisters and niece and nephew and even his mother says hello sometimes.

Yes I made plans to go to egypt if he was'nt able to come here by next year.

He told me he would pay for a flat for me to stay there and all my expenses ,except for the plane ticket.

I have found that there are more stories of ruined relationships than of happily ever after relationships.

I'm not sure if I broke him with him because of fear,doubt or uncertainty.

I thought that once I broke up with him I will feel better ,but I don't, I think I even feel worst.

Lately it's been hard for me to sleep and eat and my head hurts and my body aches

and I can't think of anything else,but this situation.

Have I been fooled and played like so many other women on here and other websites ?

Or did I just break up with a man who couldn't been my future husband ?

I have been told to go with my gut feelings ,but I don't know what I feel anymnore.

Could it be possible that we actually meant for each other and meant to be married

even though I am christian and he is muslim?

I mean I have read a few stories of great marriages between chrstians and muslims.

As a christian I believe that God puts people in your life for a reason,so that makes things even harder.

I'm also well aware that satan could send people in my life to distract me from my relationship with God.

A part of me believes he is meant to be my husband ,but since reading all these horror stories for the last few days ,another part of me fears the worst,

that he a very good actor and is using me to come to the states like so many others.

This one really does seem so different from all the others before him.

No one has ever made me feel this way before.

He tells me everything about his life and family and we talk off/on all during the day sometimes.

What if I am that 5% that actually met the love of my life online?

I really don't know what to do.

Please help. Thanks .

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