To CT

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jun 19, 2008 at 19:00

Thank you for providing your experience on this blog. Just remember that even though you wasted a lot of time and money on this man, you are blessed that he couldn't come to the U.S.

Many of the women who post on this blog blame poverty for the behaviors of these men. Such is not the case. They are sociopaths and there is nothing one can do with a sociopath except run. I worked with a Psychiatrist for several years and I learned a great deal from him but the one lesson I will never forget is never but never expect a sociopathic personality to improve. How right he was.

The problem with the men who scam women on the internet is that they may be slick but they are plain stupid. For example, men from Moroc who live in the internet cafes all tell the same story. If a family member is terminally ill, the cost of the medical procedure is always $4,000. They don't think that women on this planet have any sense so they all use the same figure because they don't think any woman is going to challenge them.

The "flim-flam man" you were dealing with learned that you are a bright woman. You took the necessary steps to learn that he didn't keep the appointment with the U.S. Consulate. You taught him a lesson that he will never forget. However, the rest of the women he's been flim flamming probably never challenge him.

If this man had come to this country, your life would have been sheer hell. The first thing he would have done is find a group of other men from Moroc and he would have hung out, got drunk, chased after women, and cleaned out your bank account as well as destroyed your soul. Then he would have gone home, bought a wfe, and continued hanging out with other men, drinking, and chasing after other women.

Consider yourself blessed and move on. Remember that decent men never ask a woman for money. In Islam, it is forbidden for a man to ask a woman for money unless she is his wife.

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