What to believe----a man weighs in

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 19, 2008 at 20:27

Welcome Olivia!

Okay, so your man is acting weird and making excuses.

There's a little excercise I'd like you to do...I want you to imagine that all this stuff he told you, he told you on a DATE in REAL LIFE, okay? Repeat to yourself word for word of what he said, and then see how you feel, as if he told it to your face.

The thing is, Olivia, the internet is clouding you from assessing his BS. He might have four pop-up windows on topics of how to talk to Western women and is assessing your responses, and he may even be sweating under the collar.

But that's the best part---for him. Why?

Because you, my dear Olivia, cannot see him! You are left to guess as to why he's saying these things.

As a guy, I think he is fabricating this. Seriously, he left the ring in the KITCHEN because he washed his hands??!?!?!

Wow, that's a first.

If a guy starts to not talk to you, it usually means he's losing interest.

Out with family---maybe..

Or, he could be talking to other women, or out with other women (keep in mind cousin marriages are permitted in Islamic culture). This seems to be extremely common over on-line dating: one or both partners are seeing other people. It's even happened to me, and I dated someone who lived an hour away.

Olivia, this is a total sham. I would just pack up and forget about this man. Seriously, talking to someone on-line isn't worth this much trouble. He's full of nonsense, I think.

If you want more proof, hit him with probing, detailed questions, ones that don't have a yes/no answer. If he gets angry and upset, it's a classic sign of a scammer/liar. So is sending him a ring or other things, unfortunately.

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