My reply to your story

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 19, 2008 at 20:45

Thanks for sharing!

Ok, first of all, real, matrimonial love doesn't happen over the internet. What you feel for this man is more along the lines of attraction. Quite frankly, whenever someone tells me they've fallen in love on-line, it really bears on the side of ridiculous.

Seriously, Candy, you talk about trust: How can you possibly trust someone 100% without even meeting them? Feeling his breath, their touch, looking into his eyes, how can you? It's just not possible.

The fact that he cried----to me, that's an ACT. I've seen that talked about on here every so often, about how the guy will cry. I dated a woman who did this once whenever she wanted money.

Your family has given you some wise advise. Usually, it's you who ends up converting, not him. Candy, even the most bellicose feminists in the EU yield to Muslim men.

The reason why Christians, especially Catholics, are discouraged from marrying Muslims, is because BOTH religions require the children to be raised in their faith, ASIDE from all the ideological differences.
About him converting....it sounds great, but if he TRULY accepts Jesus Christ in his heart, he'll keep that part of him no matter who he marries. DON'T think you have to marry him to save him!

I've heard the "I'll convert" excuse before too. My myspace woman tried that on me, and I believed her, but she clearly had no intention of changing.

Most people don't. Going into a relationship or marriage expecting to change that person is folly. That's why marriages between people with similar outlooks are much more successful, and much more common.

You really seem impacted by the stories. Candy, you're a lot farther along that I was with my woman. It took an ipod, a car, a computer (that she used to have sex with other men with), 5 grand and countless 3 am crying phone calls later for me to wake up and realize what this was. That and the fact she was cheating on me the whole time and in another relationship with a woman to boot.

And they're not even limited to Muslim men. The change after marriage? Happens with Russian women and American men, too. She's all nice and giddy on the dating agency tour, then she comes over here, and what happens? Learns English, gets a driver's license and is gone.

This is clearly something, I think deep down, you don't want to do. The strength is in you to leave this man. Yes, Candy, he's going to throw the book at you with crying, saying how he can't live without you. Or, he might get angry. Scammers will do this, even threaten throw out the relationship altogether as a final trump card. My woman said the same thing, she even threatened suicide.

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