Rejects and Losers

Submitted by Wanda (United States), Jun 20, 2008 at 06:12

I was not looking for love online. I am a professional, well to do woman with a permanent job and my own home. I got on ICQ out of curiosity and started chatting with this Moroccan because he was not making cyber sex offers!

We did Google searches, shared pictures of our countries and cultural tidbits. Then things snowballed into a relationship, until I saw the mess. This guy didn't even have a computer at home (he went to a cyber cafe), did not have money to call me, did not even have a car to drive, was 40 and had never been married or purchased a home, he was dirt poor and broke! He rushed the marriage thing.

My high school classmates located me for our 30th year reunion. When I told him I'd be traveling back to my country to see my dear friends, he took offense because "Americans aren't loyal to their friends." Meaning, I should instead spend the money going to meet him. When I told him that the boy I had a crush on back then became an actor and would visit and stay with me next time he had something in New York, he quickly asked:" Are you going to marry him?"

Breaking it off was a joke! The guy would type over and over :"Wanda, I am crying," "I am upset"... And the next day: "I ran a high fever." I called him manipulative and sissy before he didn't bring it up again after I told him that in *my* culture, women are the ones playing those tricks.

I also learned that he had a premature ejaculation problem he expected the woman to "help" him with, so he would have children... Too dysfunctional and parasitic for me...dirt poor, co-dependent, and a failure as a male. No wonder online was his last chance to find someone, and boy would he have lucked out had I gone on, and spent thousands bringing that underachiever to America!

So yes, those looking to marry American women in cyber space are society's rejects and losers and have quite a few skeletons in the closet. Why bother spending time, energy and money pursuing something with someone like that? We'll be the biggest givers and losers ourselves!

Think, think, think, ladies....

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