cannot break ties with egyptian man

Submitted by amy 2 (United Kingdom), Jun 20, 2008 at 14:10

hi everyone,

i met my egyptian guy on vacation in sharm, he is much younger than me, 29 but what i thought would be just a holiday romance has now got to the stage where he is devoting his love and time to me . i have been back to see him twice , he treated me like a queen and i was supposed to go back one week ago.

i didnt go because little things that happened, like him not anwering phone at times, sometimes 3 hours, to him always being busy or some other excuse. i just felt things were not right but then i could be just looking too much into things. He does come on net every other night but sometimes does say in 1 week . He talks about nothing but his love for me. his english is not too good but we get by, as i have arabic translator .

He does want to marry me but i have told him no and he is still full on. his messages to me are the stereotype ones or the same ones over again, but wen i tell him i dont like these and want conversation he tries but then his english is bad in messages and he reverts back to the others. if i get annoyed with him for not replying to my messages or i ignore him for a while he is constantly ringing and can then ask me in good english why i am doing this.

He never seems to understand why i am annoyed.? but does say sorry. i get so frustrated and wonder if he is just playing me, i find it hard to break away as he is very sweet and charming. i never give him any money and he has never asked for any but has asked for mobile phone and nike trainers and he would give me the money on holiday.

He is a waiter in restaurant so not that well off. i told him no, but then i did take him a phone . when i arrived i found he had already got nike trainers and lots of nice clothes, some still in wrappers, DKNY jeans etc.?

i did give him money for the hotel stay. He was very annoyed i did not go this time, he was leaving his job for new position and had relied on our holiday to see him through, but when i told him i wasnt going he said he had no job or money and this will cause problem if i didnt go. i told him it was his fault and should not rely on me and that he should go to his family in cairo, he said he could not do that.

He text me several times to say thank you for holiday and he had no money or job! He was then sorry and said he can handle his own finances.?

I know what you all will say, but i dont really know what to think. the communication is the most frustrating, i send him message and he replies about 3 -4 hours later with i love you message!!!!. last holiday we were togehter 1 week and he flirted with belly dancer in front of me , even after dancing. now am i being immature here?

when i got back to england i had no messages for 2 days, then he could not get cam on net working for 1 hour! saying net was not working properly. then he lost phone i bought him, hence no messages or calls for 2 days, then another 2 days no contact and he said he was in prison for 2 days all in one week!.

i have followed my gut feelings and tried to finish it and have told him so 4 times but he constantly calls. even when i dont answer up to 50 times a day with lots of plz answer messages. he declares his love and says many things and i am then back in touch with him.

i need some advice please. there are positives to this as he is very sweet and seems naive to my frustrations. He wants me to work in sharm as i wont marry him legally. i feel it hard to let go and i know i should. advice please.

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