need more information

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jun 20, 2008 at 14:21

Can you give us more information, especially on your age and the age difference between you and this man ? Also, if he proposed marriage, how soon did he do this after meeting you ? Are you a virgin ? It's essential in their culture. It's also extremely important that the woman be muslim. Any man who chases after a non-virgin, non-muslim woman is probably looking for a visa.

The fact that his mother says hello to you is meaningless. They help their sons get that green card by acting along with the son. Read my posts on my in-laws who showered me with gifts and secretly arranged the second marriage behind my back at the same time.

You are jumping in way too fast - a wedding dress planned even though you haven't met him ? Listen to your parents' advice. They are right.

I know how torn you must feel. Yes they are incredibly attentive and say the most romantic things. And they can also cry crocodile tears - the acting is so good they can cry !! How to know if he's sincere ? You can't. Not until you go against them or they decide they don't want you anymore.

One minute my husband was like sweet candy, the most beautiful thing you can imagine. Then when he realised he probably wasn't going to get the visa he wanted, i found myself in a cafe having my head yanked down by my hair and him kicking me viciously in the legs - in public no less. I was not given one clue before that day.

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