To mare

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jun 20, 2008 at 15:47

It's very sad that you allow this man to treat you like a dog and yet you can't stop contact with him.

All the suggestions in the world won't help until you yourself can realise you are worth more than this.

Do you deserve this abusive treatment ? I doubt it. These men are like a drug that is very addictive for women with low self esteem. You need him because he reinforces your low self image. He's a crutch. Plain and simple. You are using him to punish yourself for something in the past. Figure out what that thing is you need to punish yourself for by remaining in touch with someone who treats you so poorly. I know that was my reason and also a desperation to make things have a happy ending for once.

How to end things - tell yourself you are worth more than this. Realise that your life is the only one you'll have and it's a tragedy to waste it. Then change your number and email and just fill your days with things that are good for you. Live one day at a time. Slowly you will find yourself and this will be the thing that made you turn your life around. Try not to contact him as it only makes getting better a longer, more painful process.

Keep asking yourself " Do you deserve this? Does he own you ? Does he have the right to ruin your one and only life ?" And if you follow traditional native spiritual beliefs, then allow these beliefs to help you heal. Nature has been my godsend - it has a purity that is usually missing from the human world.

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