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Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 20, 2008 at 17:53

Lilly, were you even really looking for negative feedback on here?

Luigi

In response to you saying that I am trying to portray myself as "unique"...thank you. I believe that we are all very very unique.

Actually, trying to portray your relationship as unique is hardly noteworthy, nor uncommon on general blogs. It's a classical sign that some insecurity exists. You're not the first person on here who seems to think that dressing up her situation with clarity and poise will make it end up any different. Everyone who asks for advice either thinks or wants to have the real thing. I'd say it's normal, but you need to recognize it.

With all due respect, I am not fond of your tone or your attempts to repeat yourself in a more clever manner...I have heard what you have to say...

Yet, you don't acknowledge it. Despite your previous attempts to remain poised and calm, it's still very clear that you cannot separate emotion from reality, and that is unfortunate, and it's why scammers and liars will continue to fix women until the world ends.

Looks like I've managed to get under your skin, as your comment seems to have been heavily edited.

My apologies if I have offended you, as I'm sure I have, although maybe for the wrong reasons. I cannot for the life of me figure why you need to defend him to me. Something isn't right. I really think you just wanted us to say "Yeah, sure great! Go for it! Moroccans are awesome!"

Is that what you REALLY wanted? Because, honestly, Lilly, that is really weird when people do. Couples in secure relationships don't need third party support.

Please don't waste your time writing insults or profanity on here, they'll delete it every time and you'll get even more frustrated. If you're going to figure this guy out, you've got to have a clear head.

and I thank you and do not have the headspace to play silly internet mind games with you.

I don't blame you for not wanting to play mindgames, but this site isn't where you'll find them, because no one on here makes social calls. The people who play mindgames are the ones who waste time trying to meet people over the internet and forge "relationships" at 3 am.

I did write to you in a certain manner to get you to open up a little and challenge your conclusions, and defend my credibility, but that's from experience with on-line blogging. Trust me, I've been both predator and prey in on-line games, and I wouldn't be so brutally honest with you if I wanted to play you. I want you to recognize that you are taking a big risk that promises very little return except a broken heart and a wallet. People on here aren't out to get you, but the men you find on-line and on vacation in different countries are for the most part. This isn't a bash-Moroccan board like you seem to think. Even Moroccan women warn readers about these relationships.

We're just not going to tell you what you want to hear. How can we, Lilly? Most of us have been through this before, and it's a nightmare. I know what you would say about me: It wasn't a Moroccan man. But all the tricks and techniques are the same no matter who it is. That's what you don't seem to understand, and that can be dangerous.

Just for the record...my "man" is at work...my prospective man in morocco is likely getting up for work now...he works many many hours for his meagher pay, and yes, I have seen him at work in person LIVE

I really hope for your sake LIVE doesn't mean a webcam or some kind of on-line streaming. I really don't think that's something that will make or break a fake relationship from a real one.

he really is a hard working man...much more so than a lot of North American Bums!!!

Well, that doesn't really make a whole of sense. The unemployment rate in the USA is under 5%, meaning that everyone who wants a job has one. I have no idea what Canada's is, but it's almost like comparing apples and oranges, because Canada has a much more socialist economy.

I realize this is an attempt to get me all worked up, ^_^ but I'm not on here to defend North American men. I've been pretty critical of their behavior, to be blunt.

If you want to look for scammers and liars you really don't have to look much further from down the block..

Actually, the people I've met in real life are much better than the ones I've met on-line. It's really no-contest.

.I wonder what it is you are doing for a living while you are here condeming your brothers??!!

Actually, I work in the travel business right now and have an awesome salary. I don't think I'm allowed to condemn anyone, being a Catholic, but I would tell any woman that unless you plan on meeting someone who is local and similar, the internet friends/dating is a tantamount waste of time. Personally, I think a lot of people do it out of frustration or because it's easy.

Not exactly the mindset for entering into an intimate, trusting relationship with someone.

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