Thoughtful response to Isis

Submitted by LTS (United States), Jun 21, 2008 at 20:17

You have gone from not being quite sure about this relationship to being absolutely convinced that what you are doing is the right thing.This has come about because each response has flailed you with negatives and in some cases remarks bordering on verbal abuse.

That is my assessment as well. Lilly cannot expect numerous positive thoughts on this because more often than naught, these fail. She shouldn't feel like she should do this just to spite me or anyone else

To all the contributors out there this is not counselling.

What would you call it, Isis? There are two types of people who give advice: Ones who will tell you what you want to hear, and ones who want to help you out.

A client of my mom's husband died suddenly a few years ago. She met a man from Tennessee over the internet and was seeing a therapist. She told her sad tale, and the therapist told her to go for it. She did. A couple years later, we ran into her in the grocery store. She said that she's moved back here, because the man "wasn't a fan of her kids."

I can see that over the course of a week you have put up a defence mechanism - please take it down and go with what is right for you. If you say that your man has acted appropriately at all times and you have faith in him as a man then that is your call.

She does need a clear head to figure this out. Anyone would.

No one has told me not to have a relationship with my Egyptian man - that is my choice and I am very comfortable with it.

Then why did you tell me that I was just an angry American who's never been out his country before? You thought that from my posts and was wrong. Because I questioned the validity to your relationship is probably why.

Many people on this site are angry and hurt and obviously their responses reflect this.

Many people? Those are weasel words are meant clearly for me.

Isis, while I understand the reason that women are upset and angry (because they were used by Muslim men), I myself am not angry. My relationship ended long ago.

I think you still echo a serious double standard on here. You've confronted me directly because you've come on here only to offer advice, not to ask for it, yet I still mentioned previously that your relationship isn't exempt from failure. This is really what's got you all upset and twisted in a knot, and why you ho-hum your way towards others who are critical of me like some innocent, daydreaming schoolgirl skipping along.

To be blunt, I don't even think you think I am angry! A major reason to your posts over the last month, Isis, has been just to get me in a tizzy.

So, you don't think I'm angry, but you sure would like me to be!

And why not, Isis? I suppose it would further your arguments to a certain extent.

To tell you the truth, your post has had the opposite effect. You see, if you think that I am steaming behind my keyboard, I can only imagine the gross misinterpretations that you make about your man when you talk to him on-line.

These hurt and angry people can't seem to handle people being happy and 99% of responsive posts end up containing dire warnings and grave predictions.

Actually, the reason we're on here to see to it that you are happy, and that international dating rarely--if ever in some cases---brings it like it does in Hollywood.

The warnings are legitimate, Isis, because there are now Western women stuck in places like Iran and Saudi Arabia with no way out.

There are even Muslim men in this country who hold women under house arrest and no one knows about them.

Their rights as human beings are gone, and no one knows or cares.

In the Middle East, there are no ACLU, NAN. nada. zero. zip.

The embassy? NO embassy, even ours, will risk damaging international relations with another country over someone's dopey decision to pursue on-line "love." I've worked for three different government agencies in my time, including the UN, and I can promise you that.

The most dangerous mentality you can have is that it can't happen to me. But it does. People have lost their freedom or even died from this.

So, Isis, how many more people---how many more WOMEN---- have to suffer, die or lose their freedom under the false guise of "LOVE" before you understand that it is used to trick others ever since it was created?

Once you move to another country for on-line love or a man (or woman) who's philosophy on life is control women, consider your rights, even yourself, expendable.

My advice is to go with your heart - you have convinced me that your head is ready.

Anyone who insults and confronts Luigi is ready, right Isis? Let's be honest here: This is all about Lilly's "final" post to me, isn't it, Isis? That really was the trigger for this comment.

You and I have been saying the same thing to her up until now. So why the change?

Confronting me, wasn't it ^_^

----Straight_Talk_Luigi

Have a nice day!

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