Big mistake, Candy....big mistake

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 21, 2008 at 21:56

Being a difficult woman to be with ,I have tested him a few times and he always passes.

Only you haven't been with him.

. I do not make it easy for any man.I'm surprised that he hasn't wanted to leave me yet. lol

If he's got bad motives, he'll take the hits. Trust me.

I've had a few guys (in real life) cry or tell me they can't live without me when I tried to break -up with them.

Heh---sounds like desperation. That's not what I would've done.

And quite a few guys (american & foreign in real ) have told me they loved me and talked about marriage pretty soon into the relationship.

So? Quick marriage is still the same cover for a liar or scammer, whether it's real or in person. You were able to let go of them because that was in life. On-line, you are only seeing what you want to see.

So this isn't the first time for me : )

I guess it'll also be the first time you fall for a scam or liar.

Even though we have talked about getting married and I seen a dress I like and the cake that I would like ,nothing is for sure yet.

The woman I talk about on here often who I dated over myspace also talked to me about marriage, less than a month into the relationship and before we met. She was also cheating on me and cleaning out my bank out.

Talk to Luigi about marriage by day, send naked pics and go nude on webcam with other men by night.

As a woman who has had my share of many relationships in real life ,on the phone and online,I feel as though I am experienced enough to know the difference between an honest guy and a liar.

Oh really? So how come you still think matrimonal love can happen over the internet? Most married couples I know would probably balk at this.

No I'm not gullible ,naive or stupid.

You're just going to make a life-altering decision that's going to cost you money, time and heartache.

I was not even attracted to him until after I got to know him (yes he is attractive ,but not really my type),so it's not lust .

No, of course not! Your relationship is real, because it's YOU! Even though every other woman on here thought/thinks the same, it's different here!

I don't even think you can tell if he's your type over the internet.

I am told often that I'm a beautiful woman, so I'm not desperate.

Bet you'd change your mind if he called you intelligent.

I have friends and family that I spend time with,so I'm not lonely.

A priest once told me: being alone and lonely are two entirely different feelings. Are you sure? Because people who are secure with themselves and their life and relationships don't need third-party confirmation from the internet.

To be honest with everyone,reading all these stories here and on other websites drove me crazy with doubt, suspicion, and fear.

That's an interesting reaction. Just before in this same post, you said you had all kinds of experience with non-in-person (is that even a word?) dating.

Something that I didn't really feel before.

Oh, I think I see what's going on here. Like most people who date on-line, you never really saw any of them through. That's why you've never had much of a bad experience, and why the stories scare you. See, for the international scams and liars, the real side of them doesn't come out until after marriage or until you've invested considerably in a relationship. It's really more of a sales tactic than anything else. They think that if you invest heavily in the relationship, you'll agree to marry and his wishes because it's too late and too much trouble to leave now!

Who knows what will happen.

The probability of this working out is against you.

Maybe like most of my relationships my feelings will fade away and I'll end up leaving him.

Well, what are you waiting for?

Maybe he and I will meet and fall more in love. And have a great story to share and write about.

It would be a first on here.

Maybe in 3 years I'll be on here telling my sad story and trying to warn other women or what I've been though,wishing I would've listened to everyone.

Yes, that is what will happen.

Love is just a chance you have to take online or in real life.

Pffffftttt!!!! Yeah, right, cause real life and on-line are the same. I thought you said you were experienced in this.

I've been hurt before ,so if I end up getting hurt again,I'll get over it.

But it will take even more time. I wonder, how many decent, real-life men will have passed you by during that time?

With God in my life and on my side I can get over and through anything. : )

Well, it's like Protestant youtuber christopherL says: God allows suffering because it brings people closer to him, and I hope you'll remember this when the real nature of your is revealed should you stay with him.

I appreciate everyone who have shared their thoughts and opinions about my situation.

You are welcome.

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