reply to luigi red flags

Submitted by amy 2 (United Kingdom), Jun 22, 2008 at 12:19

Hi Luigi,

thanks for your advice, you are right in what you say and i sit here thinking what the hell have i got myself into? i am already emotionally drawn in by this guy and like you say he is very persistent, but more so when i am trying to basically tell him to get lost wich i have done on many occasions. each time i try to get over this and tell him its over he seems to weave his way back with calls and messages. but i get so frustrated as he doesn't seem to understand why its over?? or does he?

i have tried not answering for days at a time even switching off my phone but he just wins me over? i feel very weak to his advances and this is not like me. i know what i need to do as you say and change my number and block him from msn but then i would rather he understand why i am doing this. when i ask him questions re his actions he seems to not answer and babble on about other nice sweet things. i dont know how to get through to him what i am saying.

i am not the sort of person to be rude and offensive. he is constantly declaring his love and wants me to visit him again etc etc. do you think he does understand me or ignoring the real issues here? i know what i need to do but find myself still in the same situation. i have been talking to him every day for 7 months and cant let go! but i know i have to. i just melt when i see him on msn. i do feel rather embarressed to tell you this.

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