be careful, Candy

Submitted by Lisa (United States), Jun 24, 2008 at 22:48

Candy, please continue to pray about it. Maybe this will work out for you and you will be happy together, I hope so. But there is a reason God tells Christians not to be "unequally yoked", or tied to a non-Christian, it is for our own good, not just a meaningless rule. I came up with all kinds of goofy excuses to keep pursuing a relationship with a Muslim man- that maybe God would use me to convert him, that I wouldn't care about him so much if God didn't want me to be with him, etc. They were just excuses to do something that I knew wasn't right and wasn't a good idea. Your situation may be different, I hope so.

Remember that any children born to a Muslim man are considered to be Muslim and are to be raised as such, from what I understand they take that VERY seriously. Also I believe custody of children tends to be awarded to the father in those countries. If you do get married, if I were you I would make sure he comes here to live so at least the law would be on your side, just in case. Of course, that brings up the whole question of if he is just in it for a green card, but I would rather risk that than risk moving over there and having legal contracts (marriage, and in the worst case scenario divorce and custody proceedings) under their legal system, which will be biased against a white western Christian woman.

Good luck, I do not believe all Muslim or Egyptian men are bad by any means, I know you can't stereotype. I hope you have one of the good ones, or if not, that you don't get hurt too badly.

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